5 Ways to build Trust, Credibility, and Respect for yourself

Tomorrow I will be doing a presentation to a group of Young Professionals.  I will be speaking around the topic of Leadership; How to build Trust, Credibility and Respect.

Obviously an interesting topic for this group of people.  Most of the folks that will be in attendance fall into a few different categories in the workforce. They are either starting out their careers.  They could already be in their second career. Most likely most of them, if not all of them, will be looking for an edge to continue to grow in their current role and in their organization.

I will allow them to come up with their own playbook of what they think it takes for them to build their leadership skills to be trusted, and have the respect and be credible to those in higher positions in their company or in their communities.  As they decide for themselves what they think it takes. I will share my thoughts as well.

Here are five things they can do, and you can do to: To become a trusted, credible, and well-respected leader in your organization or in your community.

  1. Invest in yourself: There is no better way to become known as a person who knows what they are talking about than actually becoming that person that knows what they are talking about.  The best way to do this, is to first become an expert in your business or the work you do.  Sign up for any trade magazines in your industry, email lists, newsletters, etc.  Whatever you can get your hands on, do it.  In addition, to getting your hands on that information you need to attend seminars or conferences in your business.  If your company will pay for it. Great. If not.  Pay for it yourself.  Become known as the person who is willing to do whatever it takes to become an expert in your business.
  2. Develop your foundational skills: Yes I said foundational.  Most people call them soft skills.  However, I call them foundational, because if you don’t have a strong foundation built it is hard to put or build anything on top of it.  You have to become a better speaker, communicator, connector with others, small talker, influencer, etc. There are  two ways to develop these skills.   First, you can attend courses to learn how to do this more effectively.  Like a Dale Carnegie Course or Toastmasters. Secondly, you have to practice a lot.  You have to go out of your way to attend networking events, find ways to speak in public, and just go out of your way to always be connecting and communicating with others.  The more you do this, the better you will become, which in turn allows you to become more known and more credible.
  3. Brand You: The first two items on the list, obviously help build you up amongst your peers and colleagues.  However, if you are working really hard to build yourself up, but meanwhile you are doing things that can pull you down. It isn’t going to help you become more respected and trusted.  Here are a couple of things to not do. Don’t be negative.  You know who those people are.  You try to avoid them don’t you?  They are the ones that are on Facebook or on your lunch breaks, complaining about everything. You don’t want to be known as that person.  Secondly, don’t feed in to the gossip.  When someone starts the gossip, exclude yourself immediately from the talk. Avoiding the negative talk and avoiding the gossip scene will help separate you from the pack and let people know that you are trustworthy.
  4. Listen and think before you speak: You could easily put these into the foundational category above.  However, I believe it needs its own space here at number four.  First of all, most people are not very good listeners.  People respect people who will listen to them.  We want someone to sincerely listen to us. Secondly, if we become good listeners, we will have the correct and accurate information before we start speaking.  How many times have you heard the old saying “Foot in my mouth” cliché.  Too many to count most likely.  And the reason people have to say it so often, is that they didn’t do enough listening on the front end to learn what they should or shouldn’t say.
  5. Speed, Accuracy, Consistency: I am still waiting for a returned phone call from a Realtor from two weeks ago.  How much credibility do you think that person has with me right now?  You got it.  Zero.  I believe you must become known as a person who does things quickly.  Lets face it.  We now live in a world where I can have pretty much anything I want within a few hours, at the longest, a couple of days.  We are all conditioned, and getting more conditioned every day, to have less patience than we used to.  If you want to become more respected and credible, become known as the person who gets things done quickly. I know when we speed things up, the chances of accuracy and consistency can be affected.  But you can’t allow that to happen.  You have to deliver everything with speed.  It must be accurate, and you must be able to do it consistently.  Period.  Look at Amazon.  They do all three.  Become known as the Amazon to everyone you know.

These are five simple things you can do to become that respected, credible, and trusted person at your office, within your organization, within your community, etc.

To your success and your future.




Don’t hate on my SWAGGER!

Call it arrogant or very confident, either one works.  However, you can have swagger only when you are consistently doing the following things.  It isn’t that you are arrogant, you are just extremely confident.  What is wrong with being extremely confident? I find that confidence comes from when I am executing the following things at a very HIGH level.

S  trive: 

  • I have found that when I pursue and I seek, I can find, I can reap.

W ork

  • When I just go at it, everything I need to do becomes automatic.

A ction

  • Sitting idle waiting for the right moment, leads to disgust and disappointment.

G oals

  • These dots on the map to success, are what keep me going even when I feel the stress.

G rowth

  • The constant pursuit of more knowledge is what keeps me away from all of the garbage.

E xcellence

  • When I don’t accept anything less, the more I realize I have yet to be at my best.

R esults

  • This is the only thing that really counts, everything else you measure only gives you doubts.

Do you want more SWAGGER?  We all do don’t we?  Be sure you are taking action in all of the above areas today and lets see where it takes you.

To your success and your future.


What does it mean to be extraordinary?  If being ordinary is having nothing of distinct difference, than we can conclude that to be extraordinary is to be of distinct difference, being different from normal.  Normal is average there is nothing extraordinary about it.

Why not be extraordinary today?  Sure it is a long weekend, after a long hot summer.  It is really easy to take this weekend and be average, be ordinary, and normal.  This is easy, but I know if you are reading this blog your goal is to be extraordinary.  Be an extraordinary father today, be an extraordinary spouse/partner today, be an extraordinary friend today. Do the thing you have been putting off for a while and do it today so you can tell everyone on Tuesday how extraordinary you were over the weekend.  Be extraordinary in something today.

What is your brand, internally and externally?

I am a trainer by nature and luckily I have been able to turn it into a career.  One of the main reasons I blog is because it allows me to flesh out my thoughts before delivering it.

Personal Branding is something I will be speaking to an audience about in one week.  The topic is branding, but I will be speaking on how to do it effectively via linkedin, which will also lead me to discuss other social media channels as well.  But I will also be discussing how to create a brand in your current job or career.

The title of my presentation is What is your brand, internally and externally? How can you do both of these at the same time.

To create a brand, you first have to identify who and what you want your brand to be. I am attempting to create my brand in business, personal development circles, training arena, and sales world by proclaiming to be the selfdevelopmentaddict.

I am developing a process in which a person can follow everyday to ensure they are living their brand inside and outside the organization.

Here are some questions for you to think about?  Once you identify your brand and what you want it to be, approach each day and ask yourself this when living your brand?

  • How will I live my brand today?  (Your specific actions)
  • How will I show others my brand?
  • How will I practice my brand today?
  • How can I make my brand stronger today?
  • Who can I help today with my brand?
  • At the end of the day, ask yourself, did I do all of the above today?

Now lets take it a step further.  In your current workspace, meaning job or career, place of employment.  What is your brand?  Guess what, YOU HAVE ONE!  Anybody that manages you or works with you knows what your brand is.  Believe me, ask them.  Here are some examples:

Employee #1:  Works hard, but complains about everything.

Employee #2:  Does a good job with the customer and is successful, but annoys management.

Employee #3: Works really hard at finding all the ways something can’t be done.

Employee #4:  Knows their business, but people hate working with them on projects.

Employee #5:  Great attitude, always positive, and does a good job.

Employee #6:  Cares about the organization a lot.

These are some small examples but they are correct.  What if you don’t have a brand at all?  That is probably worse.  However, make sure it is a brand that will get you positive responses versus negative ones.

If you are in a company, and want your brand to be changed or created start showing and living your brand and ask yourself those questions I stated above.

I am looking for some feedback from you on this blog.  What are some other areas you see that address personal branding?  I know it is a wide topic and can go in so many directions, however, my goal is to create an easy “how to” guide that can be a playbook on how to ensure you are creating and living your brand.