I am glad I didn’t listen

What is the worse that is going to happen?  Answer.  You are going to die.  And guess what? We are all going to die.  There is a one hundred percent chance that it is going to happen.  Not if, but when.

I have watched this day come for too many people in my life already and I am sure I will watch a few more, unfortunately.

What it has taught me, is that we must seize every moment of existence we have on this earth.  Instead of going for good, going for stable, going for security, going for what’s easy, what is comfortable, what makes total sense.  I am vowing to go for what is the riskiest, what doesn’t make total sense, what has a big, HUGE upside, than just a little upside, etc.

I am guessing you are probably a lot like me.  We both probably grew up in a situation where our families may have had a lot or a little.  They may have been super supportive or not supportive at all.  They may have taken a lot of risks or none at all.

Whatever your story is, it has brought you to this place.  This current place, called the “present”.  I am thankful for what my upbringing has done thus far.  However, I know how the story could end based on my experiences. I also know how I want it to end, when it ends. I am vowing to make my story end the way I want it to.  For better or for worse.

When I left a secure and stable job that was comfortable and paying me well, and a position that I totally understood.  I had some friends tell me that I shouldn’t.  I had some family members tell me to stay put.

I am glad I didn’t listen.  

When I decided to buy my first rental property, I can remember everyone.  Yes, I mean everyone. Telling me that it is risky.  They said, “What are you going to do if your tenants don’t pay?” They said “Tenants will mess your stuff up and you will have to get it fixed.”  They said “You will get phone calls in the middle of the night.” Everything was negative, nothing was positive.  I bought the property anyway.

I am glad I didn’t listen. 

When I decided to take a risk and start a business on the side.  I can remember everyone saying “How are you going to do that?”  “That is a lot of work.” Then, when I decided to leave my stable secure job and pursue this business I started.  Everyone said “You are crazy, what are you going to do if it fails.”  “Are you sure this is the right thing to do right now?”

Guess what happened.  It didn’t fail.  It is still going today.  However, at the time I learned a lesson and many lessons by doing it. I learned that I still needed to find a better way to build a business.  At the time we weren’t ready.  Guess what happened?  I got a great education and I went back to work.

I am glad I didn’t listen. 

When I decided to sell one of my houses (the one I was living in) and rent an apartment instead. Everyone again said all the same stuff. “Why would you do that”, “You are wasting money on rent.” I did it, and it set me up to make several other great moves with my money and my real estate portfolio.

I am glad I didn’t listen. 

I decided to leave a well-paying job, move to another state, and purchase a business all at the same time.  You know the routine.  Everyone said the same “Whoa, you are crazy.” “Good luck” they said, with a smirk on their face. “It is going to be hard work”.  Yep, duh.  Anything worthwhile is hard work, or everyone would be doing it.

I am glad I didn’t listen. 

I am not saying that everyone during each of these decisions were negative and trying to talk me out of it.  However, ninety-five percent of them were. And you know why?

Because it is not something that they would do.  Period. They wouldn’t do it, so they either didn’t want me to do it, because they couldn’t.  You know ego, jealousy. Or they sincerely believe that I shouldn’t have done it, and that is just their belief based on how they were raised and who they are.  Both of these reasons are pure crap by the way, and I am so thankful I didn’t listen to any of them when I made those decisions.

Now here is the thing.  I am completely disgusted with myself.  It has taken me this long to figure out that all along the way. Even though I was making good moves and good decisions. I was completely wrong in how I was doing it. You know why I was wrong?

Because I wasn’t thinking big enough.  When I bought that first rental property, I should have bought a bigger one.  Instead of a duplex, I should have bought an eight-plex  or bigger. When I started that little business. Instead of trying to conserve my money that I had saved, I should have spent every dime on that business to make it grow and grow quicker.

I have learned that even though I made all the right decisions, because if I hadn’t I wouldn’t be telling you about them today. That, my biggest problem with the decisions I made was that they were too small.

I am right in the middle of making some of the biggest decisions of my life.  Thankfully, because of my experiences. I am looking at things with a different perspective than I have ever looked at them before.

I have the mindset of “What is the worst that is going to happen?”  Since I know the answer. I am only allowing my imagination and my ambitions make my decisions. Not fear, and especially not anyone and everyone who has never been where I want to go.

To your success and your future.

 

 

X amount of things I wish I would have learned sooner

There are many things I wish I would have learned sooner, but now that I got it, I refuse to lose it.

  • Do more than you are asked to do.
  • Read more.
  • Work harder on yourself than you do anything else. 
  • Listen more than you talk.
  • Helping people is more rewarding than money.
  • Goal Setting is vital for success.  
  • Remember every person you talk to is dealing with something. 
  • Profits are better than wages.
  • Your best investment is in your own personal development. 
  • If you wake up early, you get more things accomplished. Be an early riser.
  • Remember some peoples criticisms are actually compliments.
  • Set goals that stretch you to do something different. 
  • Time is more valuable than money.  You can’t make more money, but you can’t make more time. 
  • Spend less than you make.
  • Don’t take financial advice from people who are broke. 
  • Read more.
  • Remember everyone has an agenda
  • People are usually selfish. Use this as a guide. 
  • Don’t spend more time watching television than you do reading. 
  • Save first and spend what is left. 
  • Your health is top priority, without it nothing else really matters. 
  • Remember that the tortoise always wins the race. Measurable progress in reasonable time. 
  • Read more.
  • Don’t criticize, condem, or complain.
  • Give yourself credit more often.  
  • Don’t try to rationalize things that are stupid. 
  • If you know it isn’t working, get out of it quickly.  Investments, career, relationships. 
  • Don’t major on minor things. 
  • Have a financial plan.  
  • Do what you can to become more and have more. 
  • Pursue excellence in everything you do. 
  • Do things that require you to get out of your comfort zone. 
  • Express Gratitude for everything you do have. 
  • Remember that NO body owes you anything.
  • Remember that YOU can only take care of you. 
  • Have goals for your health, wealth, and career. 
  • Don’t listen to AVERAGE people unless you want to be average. 
  • Try honestly to see things from the other persons point of view. 
  • Go TO Bed before midnight. Nothing good ever happens after midnight, unless you are getting up really early. 
  • When you wake up get out of bed quickly.  Don’t lay around. 
  • Make suggestions to people instead of telling them what to do. 
  • Read more. 
  • Formal education will make you a living, personal and self education will make you a fortune. 
  • Find a mentor in all areas of your life. 
  • Be coachable.
  • Remember that people only care about the results. 
  • Find solutions instead of problems. 
  • To really understand a concept, try teaching it.  This is the best way to learn the material. 
  • You don’t have to have debt to own a nice car. 
  • Rich people don’t ask what does it cost a month. They ask “How Much does it cost.”
  • Things are never too expensive.  I just can’t afford it. 
  • Where there is no vision, the people will perish.  Have vision for all aspects of your life. 
  • Your relationships with people are what make life worthwhile. 
  • Get around people that are doing big things. 
  • Remember you are the average of the people who you spend the most time with. 
  • True Leadership begins with leading yourself first. 
  • When you take action, things just happen. 
  • Life is really short. YOLO
  • Do more than you get paid to do. 
  • Have multiple income resources.  Don’t rely on only one source.  TOO risky. 
  • Have a back-up plan for your back-up plan. 
  • Read more. 
  • Reflect more often.
  • Introspection is vital for success. 
  • Do what I have to do as quickly as possible, so I can do what I want to do. 

I am sure I will blog on this subject many times in my life.  This is a good start. Please share your thoughts.

Brian Willett

Self Discipline

Andrew Carnegie stated that the greatest and the most essential ingredient to success is Self Discipline. Self discipline is complete control over ones mind which in turn complete control over their actions.

I don’t know about you, but sometimes my self-discipline is absent.  I allow life or circumstances to get in my way. Mr. Carnegie goes on and explains that Self Discipline begins with constructive habits in the areas of food, drink, sex, and the use of spare time. When you have self-discipline in these areas it controls everything else.

Food:  There is a correlation between how we feel and what we eat.  I know when I am eating healthier food, I feel better, and I get more accomplished.  You can’t be very productive if you feel bad.  I honestly think the state of the nation with regards to food is kind of scary.  The stuff we put into our mouth that we don’t even know about is absurd.  I know we all make decisions on what we do eat, but what is it doing to us?  I don’t even know.  What I do know is that when I have discipline in the area of food I feel better.  I lost about 35 pounds last year, and that act alone required self-discipline and a lot of it.  I feel so much better since I made the decision to cut calories and watch what I eat.  I also credit that discipline (losing weight) leading me to many other disciplines that I now have in my life.

Drink:  Wow. Having self-discipline in the area of drinking.  I don’t necessarily think about alcohol here either, I think about cokes and other artificially flavored drinks.  What are they doing to us.  Again, a lot of health issues can be attributed to both alcohol and soft drinks.

Sex:  How many times have we seen politicians or prominent figures lack self-discipline in this area and it ruin their careers?  Too many times to count.  That is just prominent people that we hear about.  But what about everyday life where marriages are ruined, finances are ruined, lives are ruined because of lack of discipline with regards to sex. I think we can all agree that self-discipline in this area can be a major contributor to our own success.  I listen to the Dave Ramsey show in the morning when I work out.  He states that the fastest growing addiction online is porn.  He said he has watched it ruin many lives spiritually and financially.

The use of spare time.  How do you spend your spare time?  Are you watching sports or Are you actively engaged in adding value to yourself or to others?  The day can be broken down into 3 eight-hour segments.  (8) work, (8) sleep, (8) recreation.  Most successful people spend closer to 10 hours working, but that is another blog for another day.  Your success is determined by what you do in that recreation time, Lets call it “opportunity time.”  Do you spend it attending school and getting further education?  Do you spend that time reading?  Do you spend it networking?  Do you spend it working part-time on something that can generate income?

I became intentional about spare time about three years ago.  I can honestly say that everything that I have accomplished during the last three years was in direct correlation to that decision I made.  I am now being even more disciplined in how I spend my spare time to increase my success even more.

Self Discipline:  Mr. Carnegie’s teachings on this subject has inspired me even more, and I hope to do the same for you by sharing this information with you.

Brian Willett

Definiteness of Purpose

I have read the famed “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill.  I am currently reading “The Wisdom of Andrew Carnegie as Told To Napoleon Hill.”  The 17 principles outlined in this masterpiece is actually the original conversation that Dr. Hill and Mr. Carnegie had, prior to the 20 years of research that Dr. Hill did to create the book “Think and Grow Rich.” The first principle Mr. Carnegie discusses and states must be first on the road to success is “Definiteness of Purpose.”

To be successful in any area of life we all must have a “Definiteness of Purpose”.  We all know this, but it is seldom practiced and I am no different.  Definiteness of Purpose means we must have a clear understanding of what we want and it must be a burning desire and passion for us.  When you have a definiteness of purpose you will not be distracted by anything that takes you away from pursuing this purpose.  It makes me think of Steve Jobs.  Steve Jobs and Apple’s definite purpose was to create products that revolutionized the industry and we as consumers didn’t even know we wanted or needed them.  He and Apple did this with the original MAC and how they changed the music industry and cell phone industry up until his death, his legacy lives on with the Apple brand still today.

At times I am pursuing what I think my purpose is, but then I get distracted.  I find myself going down rabbit holes that are not directed to my major purpose.  Is this you?  Maybe it is my own fault?  Yes it is my fault.  I feel like I have clearly defined my major purpose, but maybe it is not clear enough? If it is clear, am I on the right path to fulfilling it?  Not sure, I guess these are all great questions.  Here is what I do know, I am having fun and enjoying life and I have an attitude of gratitude for what I do have, I am truly blessed.

Brian Willett