The lie you tell yourself

We all know that it seems life is busier now than it ever has been.  We are constantly bombarded with information, media, to do lists, places to be, people to see, work to do, etc. you name it.  Most of the people I talk to say they have too much to do and not enough time to do it. Maybe you fall in this category as well.

In the winter of 1928, Maynard Keynes published an essay titled “Economic Possibilities for our Grandchildren.” In this article Keynes imagined what the future would look like a century later.  Keynes discussed that the nineteenth century created a lot of technological advancements such as electricity, petrol, rubber, cotton, and mass production.  He also stated that further growth would be just as progressive. With all of these technological advancements, Keynes believed that we would have so much more free time that only those who could appreciate “the art of life itself,” he wrote, who would “be able to enjoy the abundance when it comes.”

Here we are in 2017, how many of you have so much free time you even get a chance to just enjoy ” the art of life itself” as Keynes predicted?  My guess is that most of you are saying “I wish.”

The technological advancements of the nineteenth and twentieth century pale in comparison to the advancements we have now.  Think about the smart phone you are most likely reading this article on, or the tablet.  These two products alone have more computing power than any device or technology that was on the first space shuttle that went to the moon.

All of the studies show that the technological advancements we have made have actually created more time for us.  We don’t have the same amount of household chores, we have quicker and more efficient modes of transportations, better roads, more conveniences closer to home, Amazon, etc.

So the question is “What are you doing with your time?” One of my favorite quotes is “If it is important you will find the time, if it isn’t you will find an excuse.”

Research suggests that most of us spend more time thinking and using excuses to justify how we don’t have enough time, than actually taking the time we do have, an accomplishing a task or activity. Is this you?

When is the last time you spoke with someone and you asked them how they were doing, and their response was “Busy.” I can think of two times I asked this question yesterday and that was the response I received.

So what can we do?  One of the suggestions I make to people all of the time is this.  To understand where your time is going, you have to first find out where it is going.  I suggest using a timelog.  Track how you spend your day in thirty minute increments.  This is simple to do, but I would even recommend doing it in fifteen minute spans for more accurate information.  Most people aren’t willing to do this for a very long period of time, because this is just way too much accountability for them.

The other suggestion I make is this.  Most people plan their day around a long to do list. And many of you allow that little list to dictate your entire day.  However, the chances are you have some kind of calendar that you manage as well. And if you look at your calendar, the most important things are on your calendar. The things that must be done.  It could be a meeting, a doctor’s appointment, a basketball game, etc.  My point is that we put the cant misses on our calendar and our to do lists are for everything we would like to do.   If there are things that you haven’t been doing, or things you would like to do, then you need to put them on your calendar. By doing this you are making a statement to yourself, “this is so important that I will set aside time to get this done.”

I know that many of us have work responsibilities, children to take care of, places to be, competing priorities, etc.  However, when are you going to take the time to work on the areas in your life that make the biggest differences in life? My mentor said this to me: “If the parents are ok, the kids will be ok.” If the parents have the right priorities in life, the kids will have the right priorities in life.

In my training courses we have a value cards exercise.  There are thirty or so individual cards and each card has a value on it.  Some of the value words are accountability, family, work-life balance, integrity, honesty, faith, constant learner, boldness, organized, etc.  I then ask the audience to pair the thirty cards down to just two values that represent what they most value.  This can be very difficult for some, and very eye opening.

Often in the exercise, I see family, faith, health, etc.  I then ask the participants questions around those values.  Often times I find that their values, although important to them, are not actually being managed by them as if they are the most important things.  Many people are actually doing the opposite of what they say is most important and what they value most.

So we tell ourselves that we have less time than data suggests we actually do.  We are unaware how we spend our time.  And lastly, we go against our own values when deciding how to spend our time.

We have to quit lying to ourselves and find a way and quit looking for excuses.  What is most important to you?  To get what you want, what are you going to have to do differently?

Remember that this mythical place in the future where you will have more time, more money, less excuses, more resources, more health, better security, etc. doesn’t exist.  The only time you have is now.  You have to prioritize and dominate it.

To your success and your future.



40 inspirational quotes by my favorite Thought Leaders

One of my first and favorite books I read under the personal development category years ago, was by Zig Ziglar.  The book was titled. “See You at the Top”.  That book had a profound impact on me and catapulted me in to a life where I made a decision to be sure I continued to seek motivation out. Although I didn’t include Zig Ziglar quotes on the list.  I will say that it was Zig that got me going because of one of his most famous quotes.

People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.–Zig Ziglar 

Since first reading that quote, I have now made sure I seek out motivation everyday. Here are some of my favorite thought leaders and authors and some of their quotes that have shaped who I am over the years and who I am becoming.

Success is your duty, obligation and responsibility – Grant Cardone

Average is a failing plan! Average doesn’t work in any area of life. Anything that you give only average amounts of attention to will start to subside and will eventually cease to exist. – Grant Cardone

The weak compete. The strong dominate. – Grant Cardone

You don’t get burnout – you lose purpose! You lose your meaning. When I’m tired, I look at my purpose.– Grant Cardone

Be great because nothing else pays. – Grant Cardone

“The single biggest financial mistake I’ve made was not thinking big enough. I encourage you to go for more than a million. There is no shortage of money on this planet, only a shortage of people thinking big enough.” – Grant Cardone

If the people around you are giving you advice to slow down or to take it easy – you are surrounded by the wrong people. – Grant Cardone

Risk is an essential part of progress.-Robert Allen

Wealth is not money… Wealth is thoughts, not things.- Robert Allen

You are your wealth. The money that flows to you is just a by-product of your non-financial resources.-Robert Allen

There is no failure – only feedback.-Robert Allen

Profits are better than wages. Wages make you a living; profits make you a fortune. – Jim Rohn

Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune. – Jim Rohn

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. – Jim Rohn

Don’t wish it was easier wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge wish for more wisdom” – Jim Rohn

We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. – Jim Rohn

Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day. – Jim Rohn

If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much. – Jim Rohn

The fear of being different prevents most people from seeking new ways to solve their problems. – Robert Kiyosaki

The more a person seeks security, the more that person gives up control over his life. – Robert Kiyosaki

The only difference between a rich person and poor person is how they use their time – Robert Kiyosaki

The philosophy of the rich and the poor is this: the rich invest their money and spend what is left. The poor spend their money and invest what is left.– Robert Kiyosaki

The ability to sell is the number one skill in business. If you cannot sell, don’t bother thinking about becoming a business owner.– Robert Kiyosaki

The love of money is not the root of all evil. The lack of money is the root of all evil. – Robert Kiyosaki

The wealthy buy luxuries last, while the poor and middle-class tend to buy luxuries first. Why? Emotional discipline. – Robert Kiyosaki

The way of success is the way of continuous pursuit of knowledge. ― Napoleon Hill

If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self.― Napoleon Hill

Both success and failure are largely the results of habit! ― Napoleon Hill

Remember that your real wealth can be measured not by what you have, but by what you are. ― Napoleon Hill

You are today where your thoughts have brought you;
you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you. ― James Allen

There can be no progress nor achievement without sacrifice, and a man’s worldly success will be by the measure that he sacrifices his confused animal thoughts, and fixes his mind on the development of his plans, and the strengthening of his resolution and self-reliance.
― James Allen

No man is hindered by another; he is only hindered by himself. No man suffers because of another; he suffers only because of himself.
― James Allen

For true success ask yourself these four questions: Why? Why not? Why not me? Why not now? ― James Allen

Men are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves ― James Allen

In all human affairs there are efforts, and there are results, and the strength of the effort is the measure of the result. ― James Allen

If you will live like no one else, later you can live like no one else.– Dave Ramsey

Change is painful. Few people have the courage to seek out change. Most people won’t change until the pain of where they are exceeds the pain of change.-Dave Ramsey

We cannot become what we need by remaining what we are. – John Maxwell

The unsuccessful person is burdened by learning, and prefers to walk down familiar paths. Their distaste for learning stunts their growth and limits their influence.– John Maxwell

I hope you enjoyed some of my favorite quotes.  Please share any quotes you like and have inspired you.

To your success and your future.

Who will you have to become?

Most people are spending too much time on what they want to have and not focused enough on what it takes to get it.

So how do you get it? The first step towards any goal is to first set down and set the goal. Most people don’t even do this. They instead wade through life and most of them accomplish things by accident, but if they would have actually planned some things out, they would have, and could have accomplished so much more.

The goal is what you want.

Now that you have determined what you want. You can now focus on the what it is that you need to do to accomplish the goal. Disclaimer here: If you were smart enough to set a goal, good for you, you are in a class all by yourself. The next elite class are the people who actually make a plan and DO what it takes to accomplish their goal.

I always say the hard part is setting a goal, but the even harder part, is the doing to achieve the goal. This is really the great separator between the goal setters and the goal accomplishers.

In the doing phase. You have to determine what are the steps that will allow you to achieve the goal you are wanting to achieve. There are many actions you can take, some will work and some will not. The key here is to try a lot of stuff and figure out quickly what is working and what isn’t working.

Lastly, the final step to achieving your goal, and the one that is really the most important. Who do you have to be or become to accomplish the goal you are setting out to accomplish?

I know for me I wanted to leave a profession that I had spent most of my working adult career in. That was the goal. So what did I have to do? I had to go out and develop the skills to position myself in a new line of work. By focusing on these skills, I was able to develop a new skill set that allowed me to leave one profession and go in to a totally different one and not go backwards in my income or in my influence.

To be able to accomplish this goal. What did I have to become? I had to become fearless. I had to become a more dedicated. I knew I was going to have to sacrifice for a period of time, more than I was currently sacrificing to accomplish the goal.

Remember to do something you have never done, you will have to do something you have never done and you will have to become something that you are currently not.

So what is that you want? To get it what will you have to do? And lastly who will you have to be or become to get it?

To your success and your future.

One of the best decisions I’ve ever made

A few years ago, I made the decision to make a career transition.  Now if you are reading this and are like most people, including me.  This can be a scary proposition.  Let me tell you, it doesn’t happen over night. However, once you make a decision and have thoroughly mapped it out, including deadlines, then it is up to you to make it happen.

The first leg of this career transition started four years ago. This first leg required me to spend a lot of time doing free shit.  I am just going to call it what it is.  The free stuff I did required me to spend my time and my money, because time is money. Doing stuff that I didn’t get paid to do.  I did that for about a year, before I was then allowed to get paid for what I was doing.

Lesson #1: Be willing to do some free stuff for a while until you get good enough to actually get paid for it.

Keep in mind, I had been doing the same thing for the same company for about twelve years. The first first two years of the career transition I spent a lot of my free time trying to learn the new skill that I was trying to develop.   This required nights and weekends and it also required me to do things that were really uncomfortable.

Lesson #2: If you really want to get out of your comfort zone, do something you have never done before. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Now I am up to the third year in that career transition.  This was the year of really getting myself way out of my comfort zone. The first two years was really all preparation.  In this third year, I was now implementing what I learned, getting paid for it, but again, knowing in the back of my mind that this was all preparation for something that was to come still.

Lesson #3: If you truly are looking for a new result, you are going to have to do something totally different.

This fourth year, I made the decision to pull the band-aid off.  I made the jump over into this new position, this new career.  The career transition was finished, but really it was just beginning. I am now doing what I wanted to do full-time at this time.  I was no longer doing anything on the side of my full-time job.  This new career was now my full-time job.

In this fourth year, I learned a lot that I didn’t really know about this new career.  It was more than just a learning experience, it was a total game changer on so many levels. I was out of my comfort zone hourly.  I was learning now at a much faster pace, and it was fun and scary at the same time.

I am now at year five from that decision; year two, full-time in this new career and I am learning more now than I did in my first year.

Let me ask you, what have you been thinking about doing for a long time.  Or let me ask it another way.  How long have you hated what you are currently doing?  Or how long have you been tolerating what you are currently doing?  Because of the money?  Or because you don’t know what the next step is?

Hey, I am only five years removed from one of the best decisions I ever made. And like you, I had a lot of money on the line.  A lot of my ego and pride associated with what I had always done.  None of that matters though.

What matters most is being excited about what you are doing. Working for something bigger and I would go as far as saying for me; working for myself.

You are just one decision from making one of your best decisions. Will you do it?  And see it through?

To your success and your future.