Sometimes You Win Sometimes you Learn

I recently read John C. Maxwell’s book: Sometimes you win Sometimes you Learn; Life’s greatest lessons are gained from our losses.

In my typical book summaries, I will provide a basic outline of the book’s key concepts and my highlights (takeaways) from the book.  The bolded areas below are statements or quotes that I really found to be above and beyond and by highlighting them they are put into my memory.

John’s motivation for this book, is for us as the readers to see the value of losing and keeping the proper perspective in losing.  Like the title states, it is not losing, it is learning. If we can remember that losing is learning, then our perspective changes on how we approach success and failure in our lives.

When you’re losing, everything hurts.

  • When we win, nothing hurts; when we lose, everything hurts. And the only time you hear someone use the phrase its only a game is when that person is losing.
  • Failure is far more common than success; poverty is more prevalent than wealth; and disappointment is more normal than arrival.
  • The most important person you can ever talk to is yourself, so be careful what you say.
  • The most important person that you will evaluate is yourself, so be careful what you think.
  • The most important person you will love is yourself, so be careful what you do.
  • Professional basketball player Jerry Stackhouse said this:  Win and forget. Lose and forget.
  • A loss doesn’t turn into a lesson unless we work hard to make it so.

Humility: The Spirit of Learning

  • Pride is concerned with who’s right. Humility is concerned with whats right.
  • Success lies not in eliminating our troubles and mistakes but in growing through and with them.
  • Show me a guy who is afraid of looking bad and I’ll show you a guy you can beat every time.
  • Wisely humble people are never afraid to admit they were wrong. When they do it, it’s like saying they’re wiser today than they were yesterday.

Reality: The Foundation of Learning

  • Its easier to go from failure to success than it is from excuses to success.
  • Life is difficult.  Life is difficult for everyone.  No one escapes problems. Its called life.
  • Most people spend their entire lives on a fantasy island called “Someday I’ll”-Dennis Waitley.
  • You can deal with reality sooner, or later the reality will deal with you.

Responsibility: The first step of learning

  • Responsibility is the most important ability that a person can possess.
  • Nothing happens to advance our potential until we step and say “I am responsible.”
  • Truett Cathy (founder of Chick Fil A): “If it’s to be, it’s up to me”
  • Losses are inevitable, but excuses are optional.
  • Failure isn’t the best teacher. Neither is experience. Only evaluated experience teaches us.

Improvement: The focus of learning

4 response methods to problems:

  • Blow up: react with anger and resentment
  • Cover up: Hide your mistakes.
  • Back up: Withdraw and distance ourselves.
  • Give up: Throw up our hands and quit.
  • Success doesn’t always bring growth, but personal growth will always add to our success. 
  • The most important question you can ever ask yourself.  It’s not what am I getting.  It is what am I becoming. 
  • Improvement demands a commitment to growth long after the mood in which it was made has passed.
  • Losers don’t lose because they focus on losing. They lose because they focus on just getting by.
  • The most common trait in successful people: They have conquered the temptation to give up.
  • Small differences over time create a big difference.  Improvement is achieved in inches, not giant leaps.
  • Knowledge may come from study, but wisdom come from learning and improving in the wake of your mistakes.

Hope: The motivation of learning

  • Losses in life are never fun, but there is one loss no one can afford to experience, the loss of hope.
  • Hope always has a future.
  • Optimism is the belief that things will get better. Hope is the faith that, together, we can make things better.
  • Optimism is a passive virtue, hope is an active one.
  • It takes no courage to be an optimist, but it takes a great deal of courage to have hope.
  • Positive thinking must be followed with positive doing.

Teachability: The pathway to learning

  • Possessing the intentional attitude and behavior to keep learning and growing throughout life is teachability.
  • Living to your full potential requires you to keep learning and expanding yourself.
  • Mark Murphy: founder and CEO of Leadership IQ. His organization tracked twenty thousand new hires over a three-year period and found that 46 percent of them failed (got fired, received poor performance reviews, or were written up) within the first eighteen months on the job. The main reason for the failure was not a lack of technical competence. Weakness in that skill area was a problem for only one person in ten.  The main reason for failure, 90% was because of attitude.  Top reason for failure was lack of teachability. 26 percent of the people failed weren’t coachable.
  • Being teachable requires two things: Capacity and attitude.
  • It’s good to remember that in science, mistakes always precede discoveries.  Be teachable.
  • As long as I am still learning, I will always have something to say and be able to add value to others.

Adversity: The catalyst of learning

  • People begin to make the biggest changes when they hurt enough to have to.
  • Extraordinary people survive under the most terrible circumstances and then become more extraordinary because of it.
  • Circumstances does not make the man; it reveals him to himself. That is true only if you allow it to.
  • Circumstances are the rulers of the weak, but they are the instruments of the wise.
  • Turn your wounds into wisdom.
  • Some people treat adversity as a stepping stone, others as a tombstone.

Problems: Opportunities for learning

  • Positive thinking is how you think about a problem. Enthusiasm is how you feel about a problem. The two together determine what you do about the problem.
  • Lou Holtz said this: Don’t tell you problems to other people. 80% don’t care and the other 20% are glad you have them.

Bad experiences: The perspective of learning

  • Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later a collection of mistakes is what is called experiences–Dennis Waitley.
  • Failure is the cost of seeking new challenges.
  • Ninety Percent of those who fail are not actually defeated they simply quit.
  • Succèss lies in having made the effort; failure lies in never having tried.
  • Most failures are people who have the habit of making excuses.
  • Ignorance means you didn’t have the necessary knowledge.  A person can hardly be blamed for that. Stupidity is the result of knowing what to do but not acting upon that knowledge.

Change: The price of learning

  • When you aren’t willing to pay the price of learning by changing you will eventually pay the price of losing.
  • Leaders resist change as mush as followers do, unless the change is their idea.
  • For everything we gain we lose something.
  • No change means no growth.
  • Most people would rather change their circumstances to improve their lives when instead they to change themselves to improve their circumstances. 
  • The person who insists on using yesterdays methods in today’s world won’t be in business tomorrow.
  • To grow you must be willing to let your present and future be totally unlike your past. 
  • Chance occurs only under these three conditions:
  • They HURT enough that they have to.
  • They LEARN enough that they want to.
  • They RECEIVE enough that they are able to.
  • You are only one defining decision away from a totally different life-Mark Batterson.
  • Change occurs by following this process: New Information is accepted. A new attitude is adopted. A new behavior is practiced. New conviction influence others. 
  • When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at actually begin to change.
  • Successful people are realistic about their problems and find positive ways to approach them.
  • Successful people don’t allow their feelings to determine their behavior. They behave their way into feeling so that they can do what they must to grow and keep moving forward.
  • Successful people do two things that many other people don’t: They initiate action, and they finish what they start. 
  • Unlearning is a prerequisite for growth. 

Maturity: The value of learning

  • Good people are good because they’ve come to wisdom though failure. We get very little wisdom from success.
  • If I had my life to do over again, I’d make the same mistakes, only sooner.
  • We first make our habits, and then our habits make us. 
  • Maturity is knowing that you need to give up things today for greater gains tomorrow.

Winning isn’t everything, but learning is

  • Success is a lousy teacher. It makes smart people think they can’t lose-Bill Gates.

8 reasons why people prevent themselves from winning tomorrow:

  • Been there done that: They hit a milestone and make it a tombstone. Lose their curiosity.
  • The banquet tour: When you win, you start speaking about how you won. You forget to keep doing.
  • Success gurantees success: Just because you won, it means you can do one thing well, when you win maintain your perspective.
  • The momentum myth: Peoples natural inclination after a win is to take a break. Don’t do this, capitalize on the win and use the momentum.
  • One hit wonders: You are successful once and you are still trying to live off of that win.
  • The entitlement mindset: People who have something that they didn’t win for themselves start thinking they are entitled to more. To keep winning you must stay hungry. It’s why inherited businesses go out of business.
  • Playing not to lose: Don’t become to cautious and defensive. Try to win, don’t try not losing.
  • The arrival plateau: Some people become so focused on a goal that when they hit it they give up. Don’t give up set new goals.
  • Greater learning comes from greater thinking.
  • You haven’t learned anything until you take action and use it.
  • Risk taking with ability to leads to increased learning and success.

I hope you enjoyed this quasi summary.  I encourage you to read the book.  It is a quick and easy read with so many more insights.  Please share this with someone who you think could get something from it as well.

To your success and your future.

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3 Things I learned last week 9/28-10/3/2015

Like always, there are some lessons in the three that I already know, but as always, we must keep looking at our experiences and ensuring we are learning what we can from them.

You know when you know:  Last week I heard Kobe Bryant responding to a reporter at a press conference asking when he thinks he will retire.  Kobe said that he spoke with Derek Jeter, Michael Jordan, and a few other very prominent athletes, who had retired and asked them the question “When did you know it was time to retire.” He said that all of them said something different.  He didn’t really go into details on what they said, he just said that they all had a different view-point on retirement and when they chose to do so.  So to answer the reporter’s question of when does he plan on retiring, Kobe said “He said I will just know.”

In no way am I Kobe Bryant, nor will I be retiring soon.  However, in life when something gets to the point that it is no longer beneficial, or you are no longer excited about it, you no longer are committed, you know it is time to walk away.  Sure athletes retire, because they can no longer perform physically the way they did at one time.  Which is why many of them retire.  But physically, emotionally, attitudinal, etc. you know when it is time.  It is a just a feeling that is overwhelmingly strong.  We all have been in situations in work, relationships, committees, teams, etc. or we will be in situations when you know that is no longer beneficial and serving you and in many cases the other party.

Your response tells us everything: I have a confession to make.  I don’t know what it is, but I enjoy listening to one sports talk radio show.  It is Colin Cowherd.  I am not sure if it is the sports I really care about, because I don’t watch or follow 90% of what he talks about.  However, what I like is insight on all of it.  Colin is extremely smart and funny.  Now that I justified my listening.  Last week Colin was responding to some people he offended.  He made a brilliant statement. Colin said: “Your response to criticism tells us exactly how true the criticism is.”  So if you brush it off likes it is no big deal, the chances are the criticism is probably unfounded and not very accurate.  But if you respond hastily and defensive, the likelihood of the criticism being accurate and you even knowing it is accurate, is probably more likely. He also has very smart people thought leaders, entrepreneurs, successful business people, etc. on the show as well.  More justification for me.

When you look at it all and it all makes sense, it probably makes sense: We all have very big decisions to make in our lives.  Should I buy this house, or that house.  Should I go to this college or that college. Should I be in a relationship with this person or not.  Should I but this software or that software. Should I buy this car or that car. Should I eat this or that. These are all decisions we have to make each and every day. Now my hope is in each of these decisions you have done your due diligence and investigated the case or you had someone do it for you.  But you eventually have to make a decision and if the decision you are weighing all adds up and makes sense, it probably make makes sense.  Act on it now.

Please share with me what you learned the last week.  We get better by learning from our evaluated experiences.

To your success and your future.




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Do you have the achiever mindset?

One of the hardest jobs of a leader is finding, hiring, and then developing the right people you want on your team.  Finding the right friends, colleagues, spouses, partners, etc. is one of the hardest things we as individuals do as well.  As leaders and individuals we want to be around people who are achievement focused, especially if you are achievement focused.

David McClelland studied achievement and motivation throughout his life and career.  His work is of the same vein as Abraham Maslow.

In McClelland’s research he came up with three basic needs for workers and people in general.

The three basics needs are: the need for achievement, the need for authority and power, and the need for affiliation.  These three needs are very basic in all of us.  These three needs are what drive is to do what we do.

McClelland was most intrigued by the achievement motivated people.  He asserted through his research and studies that the achievement minded person makes the best leaders and team members.  He also stated that achievement minded people make the best entrepreneurs because of their success driven and results driven mindset.

Here are characteristics and attitudes of achievement minded people according to McClelland:

Achievement is more important than material or financial reward: Do you have the mindset to get the job done?  The mindset to do it better than another person?  Or to do it to the best of your ability and know that you did everything you could possibly do?  This is the achievers mindset.

Achieving the aim or task gives greater personal satisfaction than receiving praise or recognition. Can you win and then go on about you business? Move on to the next task?  Achievers don’t need the spotlight.  The glory they need is knowing that they achieved what they wanted to achieve.

Financial reward is regarded as a measurement of success, not an end in itself. As one of my mentors said: Money isn’t everything, but it is good way to keep score and to see how you measure up. It’s easy to count as well, which makes it easily quantifiable.  Achievers know through achievement financial rewards will come.

Security is not prime motivator, nor is status. This is one of the primary motivators that separate entrepreneurs from everyone else.  They are more motivated by the achievement and the accomplishment than they are being secure or being held in high regard.

Feedback is essential, because it enables measurement of success, not for reasons of praise or recognition (the implication here is that feedback must be reliable, quantifiable and factual). No matter what you do or how well you do it, feedback is necessary to achievement and success in everything.  The greatest minds in Silicon Valley  say that whatever you are creating, get it to a point where it is good enough.  Then take your product to the market and let the market give you feedback to make improvements.  As an individual your willingness to accept feedback positively and adopt it will allow you to make changes that are necessary for you to continue to grow and work with others effectively.

Achievement-motivated people constantly seek improvements and ways of doing things better. Achievers have a mindset of “there is always a better way”, “If I would have done this”.  These two phrases are what you hear from achievement minded people.  Achievers realize that good enough is only good enough in the moment.  They know that they must seek improvements to be good enough again.

Achievement-motivated people will logically favor jobs and responsibilities that naturally satisfy their needs.  (Jobs that offer flexibility and opportunity to set and achieve goals, eg., sales and business management, and entrepreneurial roles.) Achievers want to achieve.  In many jobs, measurements and accountability can be hard to measure.  That is why achievers typically favor jobs that allow flexibility to get a job done and navigate towards leadership, sales, and entrepreneurship.  These roles allow for goal setting and achievement to occur on their terms.

Do you have the achiever mindset?  If not how can you get it?

I am in the process of researching and writing my next book. I will be looking at the above concepts and showing how they apply in our everyday lives as well as how they apply in the workplace.

To your success and your future.

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6 I’s that I am focused on today and so should you

Every day we have an opportunity to focus and get the most we can out of a day, or we can meander and just try to get through the day.  When you are just getting through the day it means you have no purpose or vision.  We are blessed today with a “present”.  I guess that is why we call it the “present” because it truly is a “present” a “gift” that we get to enjoy.

How can we enjoy the “present” and get the most out of it?

Ignore:  Yep, there are some things and some people you just have to ignore.  It’s not personal, you just cant allow people and anything else prevent you from pursuing and achieving your goals. I get it that there are some things that don’t help us in our pursuit of our goals that we can’t ignore. I am in the same boat.  What we can do is work through them as fast as we can, so we can move on to what we need to do to achieve what we want to achieve. Who and what do you need to ignore today?

Invest: 1. I am investing in my future today by having clearly defined goals. 2. By only doing the things that lead me to achieving those goals. 3. By investing in the tools necessary to assist me in accomplishing the goals. Everything in life requires us to invest first and benefit later.  You have to pay first. What are the areas in your life and your career where you need to make an investment to accomplish your goals?  Maybe its money, time, or attention?

Involve:  All this week I have been calling and reaching out to people who I need involved in what I am accomplishing.  I am going in a different direction, in some cases I don’t even know where it is or how to get there.  But there are lots of people who do know.  Those are the people who I am connecting with and talking to. So who do you need to get involved with?

Imagine:  Imagining what could be gets you thinking bigger than you currently are thinking.  In my book 7 ways to more, click here to purchase. I discuss, how we all must find time to think.  When you make the time to think you develop an environment that allows you to be more creative.  Creativity leads to excitement, because you get excited about the possibilities.  When you are ony grinding and not thinking, it can become mundane and boring.  Sure you have to do the work, the grind, however, you have to find time to think and imagine what could be.  Do you have some time carved out today to imagine what could be?

Increase:  One of my mentors is challenging me to 10X everything.  What he means is take everything you are doing and increase it by ten times.  In all of the activities that you are currently doing, what if you increased them by ten times?  Example:  If you are saving $10 dollars a month. What would be the impact of saving $100 dollars a month. If you are making sales calls to twenty people a week, what if you were calling two hundred people.  By increasing your activity in the different areas of your life you will get to where you want to go quicker.  Most of us don’t realize we can do more until we do it.  What are a few areas you can commit 10X to today?

Impact: One of the focuses in my life is to make an impact on other people’s lives.  I have the fortunate opportunity to do that in my current position as a trainer and leader.  However, we all have the opportunity to do it.  We can buy coffee for the person behind us at the coffee shop.  We can hold the door open for the person behind us.  We can tell our office buddy what a great job they are doing in their job.  In what ways can you have impact today?

When you Ignore it frees you up to Invest. Investment gets the right Involvement, that gets us to Imagine that we can Increase our actions so we can have greater Impact.

To your success and your future.


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3 Things I learned last week 9/21-27/2015

Keep doing what you are doing:  In my line of work you sometimes don’t know what kind of impact you are making.  Sure, I can go into a company and measure sales results before and after training.  I can work with a coaching client and see that they made a lot of progress on their goals during the time I worked with them.  But what I don’t know and what excites me, is the impact I am having that I will never even know I had.  That is what keeps me doing what I am doing.  If you are passionate about what you do keep doing it.  You are making a difference and sometimes you will know you are and most of the time you wont. But keep doing it.

I hate to say it, but it is reality. I had the unique opportunity to celebrate a major milestone this past week with a good friend of mine.  This celebration was about them and their life and their achievements.  Have you ever been around people who chose to make it about them and not the person who it should be about.  I have watched this in leadership so many times throughout my career.  Here is what I have observed and have witnessed in leadership and I will put it in the context of how some leaders feel about success and achievements of others:

  • Congratulations, but don’t think you are ahead of me.
  • Congratulations, this isn’t that significant really.
  • Congratulations, I am glad I was so impactful in you achieving this accomplishment.
  • Congratulations, don’t forget that I was apart of this.

The reason this stands out for me this week is I am around a lot of leaders all of the time. Some leaders I know are really good at allowing all the credit go to others.  Some want to be sure they are included.  And others, well, they want to give themselves the credit either blatantly or indirectly. And if they don’t get recognized for their part in it, well, they will try their hardest to remind others if they can.  Here is what I think real leadership is.  Congratulations, great job, well deserved.  A great leader doesn’t ask for anything or say anything, they just do what they do and stay behind the scenes when it is time for others to shine.

Some books are better listened to than read, and some books are better read than listened to.  I am always reading one book in paper form and listening to a book at the same time.  That is just what I do. These last two weeks,  I am on a bad run.  The last two out of three book purchases I made on audible haven’t been very good to listen to.  I guess I could make the argument that they may not be good in general.  But I learned a few lessons this week with regards to my book purchases.  If the book has a lot of chapters in it, meaning the chapters are short but there are a lot of them, I should purchase the book and read it. The reason I say this, it is the only way I can remember the information in the book.  That is the lesson.  Now that I made this mental note I will keep that in mind for my next purchase, which I am doing now.

What did you learn last week?

To your success and your future.


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4 annoying statements successful people hear

If you are a successful person the chances are you have heard at least one of the followings statements before.  The reason I can say that is you wouldn’t be successful or appear to be successful if you didn’t possess or demonstrate one of the following thoughts or actions.

What success means to you is up to you. You have to define your own definition of success.  I just know what I hear and see when it comes to my life and success and here is what I think about it.

“You need to have a work life balance”: I don’t feel like I don’t have balance.  Work life integration should be the goal, not balance.  How can you surround yourself with people and activities that feed both your work, your life, and your passions.  You can’t have two personalities. If you do, we call you crazy. You can’t be one person part of the day and another person the other part of the day.  So this balance thing is what people say who either hate what they do, or they hate the fact that you like what you do.

“Money isn’t everything”: If I had to rank these statements, this one would be number one.  Because I know money isn’t everything.  If you read my book here you will see that I don’t even have money down as one of the seven ways to more. Here is what I do know though.  Money gives me options.  Money allows me to help others.  Money gives me freedom to do the things I want to do. Money gives me access. The reality of life is that everything costs money.  I don’t know about you, but I like nice things and I like to do fun things, both of these require money.  So you can either take the approach that I don’t need a lot of money and don’t do anything fun with your friends and family, or you can take a different approach and try to earn all you can, so you can save all you can, and give away all you can. 

“You have a lot of extra time”: Nope, I have the same amount of time as you do.  I just choose to prioritize my time. With the time I do have I ensure I do the most important tasks consistently and do them first.  I make time.  You should make time as well.  “You either run the day or the day runs you” –Jim Rohn.  I control my day and my daily activities revolve around my goals that I have in my life and in my work.

“You like to read that kind of stuff”: I assume you mean stuff that makes you think.  Stuff that can help me in my businesses. Stuff that I can use to help others.  Stuff that I can use to encourage others and inspire others to seek their full potential.  Stuff that I can read to help me understand a better way to do something, or don’t do something. Assuming something is usually a bad thing.  However, when it comes to this statement, my assumption is usually correct and validated once the person continues speaking that they don’t like to read much of anything.

What are some of the annoying statements you hear?  How do you respond to them?

To your success and your future.


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5 Things you can do and computers can’t

The last twenty years has been really interesting for all of us.  Technology is rapidly taking over many of the things we as humans used to do.

In Geoff Colvin’s book “Humans are Underrated” What High Achievers know that Brilliant Machines Never Will” he describes what jobs and high value skills cannot be replaced by computers and technology and why.  You can access the book here

So what are the high value skills that humans have that computers and technology don’t have and never will?

Empathizing: Throughout the book the author looks at research and data that shows time and time again that we as humans seek empathy and we as humans seek to give empathy.  When you can empathize with someone you connect on a deeper emotional level that allows you to show someone you really care.  Technology and computers don’t have the ability to empathize.  A computer will eventually be able to give you a bad test result on your health.  But it wont be able to deliver that result with an empathic side that gives you hope that it will be ok.

Collaborating:  A computer can only provide information and perform specific tasks.  Both of these are actions that we need.  Sure the computer can perform these two actions, but they can’t take the information and work with that information with a group or team to come up with a solution that makes sure all angles are looked at to meet all of the needs from all of the involved parties.  Only humans have the ability right now to collaborate and make necessary changes as needed.  In business things change all of the time.  Conditions change and even people will change along the way in a big project, only humans have the ability to collaborate with each other and ensure these changes are handled and the project still gets accomplished.

Creating:  There are computers that are currently successfully creating art and providing possible solutions to problems.  However, where computers fall short is where things are not black and white.  Only humans have the ability to create.  Only humans are able to look at problems and say “There has to be a better way.”  This is a high value skill that is needed in the marketplace right now and as things change it will continue to become a sought after skill.  How good are you at creating solutions for problems?

Building Relationships: One of the basic cores of all humans is the want and need to have interactions with others.  It is ingrained in our DNA to have interactions with other people.  Look around everyone belongs to a Facebook group, Alumni association, a club, or something similar.  Why do we belong?  Sure we appreciate the group for what it is, but we also seek to be a part of something and have interactions with others. Children are a good example of this basic need.  Go to a playground and look around.  Children don’t even know each other, but they will be playing around with each other and trying to build relationships.  It is ingrained in us, it is something a computer can’t do, only humans can do.  How can you continue to work on building better relationships to make yourself irreplaceable?

Leading:  Leadership is one of the most needed skills in the marketplace.  Look around when you think of good leaders who really comes to mind?  Maybe a coach?  Maybe a politician?  Are they really the best example?  There are some.  However, the marketplace needs leaders now more than ever.  It is a skill that can be learned and a computer cannot do it. Do you want to be a leader?  Are you working on that skill?  

Which one of the skills above do you need to work on?  If you continue to develop the above skills the sky’s the limit and your work will never be replaced by a computer.

To your success and your future.


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3 Things I learned last week 9/14-20/2015

As I reflect over last weeks experiences and learning opportunities here is what I remember most.

Be spontaneous:  Those of you who know me well would not use the word spontaneous to describe me.  Nope, the word would be disciplined, routine, or something along those lines.  Nonetheless, at times, I do have a little bit of spontaneity.  And you know what?  Every time I do this, I have a blast.  On Saturday I had the chance to do something different and it turned out to be something that I enjoyed and I most likely will do again.  It seems that throughout my life some of the best experiences I have had in my life have been the events that were not planned.  Some of those experiences are: a great party that we just happened to go to when I was younger, a detour that led to a great discovery, or like Saturday a random stroll up the street that turns into a great experience of learning a new genre of music and history lesson that made it even more enjoyable.  In all of these experiences though, it is really the people who you are with that make the experiences most enjoyable, don’t forget that, it’s the people you around that determine the outcome of the experience.

Be intentional:  Oddly enough I am intentional in almost everything I do in my life.  I am intentional about what I eat, read, in my exercise and health, my personal growth, and in many other areas of my life.  That intentionality has led me to extreme success. However, there are some new actions and new disciplines that I am pursuing where I haven’t developed that intentionality and discipline just yet. I am in the process of doing so, but it isn’t ingrained  into my daily routine.  To ensure that these new actions create the intentionality needed to have success, I must develop some new strategies to accomplish the goals.  Intentions and intentionality are two totally different concepts.  Everyone intends to do something, but inevitably those intentions can be easily derailed.  When you are living intentionally you are ahead of it and you get things done because you are proactive. Live intentionally so your good intentions can become fulfilled.

Be around creative people:  I don’t consider myself an over creative person in many respects.  However, from time to time I am able to do something that is different and unique.  Here is what I have learned though.  When I am around creative people I am inspired to be even more creative.  Creativeness gets you looking at something differently than you have ever looked at it before.  Last week, I had the chance to see a different approach to a concept that I have known and understood to be delivered in a certain way for many years.  This new approach that I was blessed to see takes something that could be considered blah, and makes it exciting to learn or at least gets someone thinking about it.  Being around creative people makes me more creative.  I know this to be true, and I will continue to associate with creative people.

What did you learn last week?  Have you had time to evaluate it?

To your success and your future.

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It’s your choice, which one will you choose?

Who will you be today?

If you woke up today you have a chance to be whatever you want.  These adjectives can either be positive or negative depending on the situation.  However, we need to be each of these if we want to accomplish our goals and desires.  Who will you be today?

  • Be Relentless
  • Be Unreasonable
  • Be Focused
  • Be Committed
  • Be Unwavering
  • Be Determined
  • Be Better
  • Be Great
  • Be the Best
  • Be Aggressive
  • Be Intense
  • Be Resolute
  • Be Hungry
  • Be Thirsty
  • Be Uncompromising
  • Be Devoted
  • Be Engaged
  • Be Enthusiastic
  • Be Consistent
  • Be Absorbed
  • Be Disciplined
  • Be Habitual
  • Be Early
  • Be Excellent
  • Be Tough
  • Be Productive
  • Be Effective
  • Be Efficient
  • Be Positive
  • Be Visionary
  • Be Humble
  • Be Generous
  • Be Faithful
  • Be Optimistic
  • Be Curious
  • Be Thankful
  • Be Gracious
  • Be Ambitious
  • Be Creative
  • Be Diligent
  • Be Fearless
  • Be Honest
  • Be Successful
  • Be Content
  • Be Passionate
  • Be Results focused

The above describes what I will be today.  If you can’t be all of them, which one will you choose?  Please share with me your “Be _____”

To your success and your future.





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5 Things you can do to ensure you are fully present

This is something that is on my mind today and at times it is something I struggle with as well.  How can we be more present?  Fully present with our minds, attention, body language, eye contact, etc. when we are with other people? According to Wikipedia here is a link on some of the research and studies that have been conducted in the area of attention span:

According to a study conducted by Microsoft, we as humans have lost our ability to focus on something by 4 seconds in last 15 years.  Here is a link to that study:

So that is the data and the facts, so what do we do about it?

Here is what I say:

Actually Care:  Yep, it’s not much more difficult than that.  Care enough to give the person you are talking to your full attention.

Put down the damn smartphone: You are addicted to your phone.  Turn it off or put it away.

Ignore it: If you are so addicted to your phone you can’t put the damn thing down, at least ignore as your text messages and emails are rolling in if you are talking to someone.

Respect: “But some people are boring!”  Yep, I know they are.  In some cases they know they are.  Regardless if they are boring or not, let’s be human and show them the same respect that we would want ourselves.

Multi-tasking is BS:  If I am told one more time that “I am a multi-tasker and I am listening to you and sending a text.”  Let me pontificate on this a little more for the sake of argument here.  There have many studies conducted in the area of multi-tasking and the ability of someone to do this effectively.  IT IS IMPOSSIBLE!  There is no way your mind/brain can focus on two things at once.  You are either paying attention or you are doing something else, PERIOD.  The proper term in the area of multi-tasking is actually called “switching”.  Which means you are switching from one task to the other, which in most of the research it states that you are less productive when you are switching.

So to sum it all up.  When you are with other people, be fully present.  It really goes back to the golden rule, “treat others how you would like to be treated.”

To your success and your future.

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